Defining Infidelity in Research and Couple Counseling: A Qualitative Study
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Infidelity can destroy relationships, but there is long-standing debate in the field about how best to define the construct. A clear definition of infidelity is important theoretically, empirically, and therapeutically; however, research on the topic is limited. This study explores how seven experienced couple counselors define infidelity on the basis of their work with heterosexual couples presenting with this issue. Thematic analysis was used to analyze interview transcripts and research findings suggest a rich web of conflicting definitions of infidelity for couples counselors and, in their accounts, clients. The findings support an understanding of infidelity as socially constructed and the implications of this for the field are discussed.
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Specific emotional manifestations of infidelity-based trauma include feelings of extreme anger, betrayal, insecurity, rage, shame, guilt, jealousy and sadness.
“Specific emotional manifestations of infidelity-based trauma include feelings of extreme anger, betrayal, insecurity, rage, shame, guilt, jealousy and sadness [24,31,33,34,35,36,37,38,39,40].”
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- Authors
- Moller, N. P., & Vossler, A.
- Affiliations
- University of the West of England (GB)
- The Open University (GB)
- Corresponding author
- Moller, Naomi P.
- Venue
- Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy
- Publisher
- Informa UK Limited
- Published
- 2014-08-25
- Volume
- 41
- Issue
- 5
- Pages
- 487-497
- ISSN
- 0092-623X (ISSN-L)
- 1521-0715
- OpenAlex
- W2146664849
- Cited by
- 85
- References
- 2
- Citations by year
- 2026: 7 · 2025: 4 · 2024: 12 · 2023: 10 · 2022: 18 · 2021: 9 · 2020: 2 · 2019: 8 · 2018: 5 · 2017: 3 · 2016: 3 · 2015: 3 · 2014: 1
- FWCI
- 10.86
- Type
- journal article
- Language
- en
- Open access
- closed
- Locations
- Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy (publishedVersion)
- PubMed (publishedVersion)
- Open Research Online (The Open University) (acceptedVersion)
- Topics
- Social Sciences › Sociology and Political Science › Marriage and Sexual Relationships
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Social Psychology › Attachment and Relationship Dynamics
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Clinical Psychology › Sexuality, Behavior, and Technology
- Keywords
- infidelity, couple counseling, heterosexual couples, breakup, counselor perspectives, customer perspective
- MeSH terms
- Extramarital Relations, Female, Humans, Interpersonal Relations, Male, Risk Factors, Sexual Behavior, Spouses, Couples Therapy, Qualitative Research
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