Conversational narcissism
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Conversational narcissism is typified by an extreme self‐focusing in a conversation, to the exclusion of appropriate concerns for the other. Whether conceptualized as a conversational style, possessed to varying degrees by various individuals, or as a conversational feature associated with various situational demands, conversational narcissism has important implications for the structure, goals, and outcomes of conversation. Results of six studies reported here revealed that people had behavioral referents for the term “conversational narcissism” such as boasting, refocusing the topic of the conversation on the self, exaggerating hand and body movements, using a loud tone of voice, and “glazing over” when others speak. The behavior of individuals role‐playing narcissistic conversational behavior was consistent with the recalled referents. Further, people enacting narcissistic conversational behaviors were rated significantly lower on social attraction than people not acting narcissistic. While conversational narcissism is generally perceived as a negative social strategy, respondents reported a number of contexts in which focusing attention on the self (to the exclusion of the other) is an appropriate move. Taken together, the data suggest that conversational narcissism is determined interactively, by the needs and conversational goals of both participants.
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Offline, narcissists try to stand out by dominating social interactions, such as interrupting or steering conversations toward their accomplishments.
“Offline, narcissists might try to stand out by dominating social interactions, for example by interrupting or stirring the direction of conversations toward their accomplishments (Vangelisti, Knapp, & Daly, 1990).”
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- Authors
- Vangelisti, A. L., Knapp, M. L., & Daly, J. A.
- Affiliations
- University of Iowa (US)
- The University of Texas at Austin (US)
- ORCID
- Vangelisti, Anita L.
- Venue
- Communication Monographs
- Publisher
- Informa UK Limited
- Published
- 1990-12
- Volume
- 57
- Issue
- 4
- Pages
- 251-274
- ISSN
- 0363-7751 (ISSN-L)
- 1479-5787
- OpenAlex
- W4250964697
- Cited by
- 54
- References
- 54
- Citations by year
- 2026: 1 · 2025: 3 · 2023: 3 · 2022: 1 · 2021: 3 · 2020: 12 · 2019: 2 · 2018: 2 · 2017: 3 · 2015: 3 · 2014: 5 · 2013: 2
- FWCI
- 0.00
- Type
- journal article
- Language
- en
- Open access
- closed
- Locations
- Communication Monographs (publishedVersion)
- Topics
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Clinical Psychology › Personality Traits and Psychology
- Social Sciences › Arts and Humanities › Language and Linguistics › Language, Discourse, Communication Strategies
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Social Psychology › Attachment and Relationship Dynamics
- Keywords
- conversation structure, boasting, social attraction, interpersonal perception, conversational strategies, role play
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