When He Doesn’t Mean You : Gender-Exclusive Language as Ostracism
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Three studies assessed whether a common cultural practice, namely, the use of gender-exclusive language (e.g., using he to indicate he or she), is experienced as ostracism at the group level by women. Women responded to the use of gender-exclusive language (he) during a mock job interview with a lower sense of belonging, less motivation, and less expected identification with the job compared to others exposed to gender-inclusive (he or she) or gender-neutral ( one) language (Studies 1 and 2). Moreover, the more emotionally disengaged women became over the course of a job interview upon hearing gender-exclusive language, the less motivation and job identification they subsequently reported (Study 3). Together, these studies show that subtle linguistic cues that may seem trivial at face value can signal group-based ostracism and lead members of the ostracized group to self-select out of important professional environments.
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Masculine personal pronouns in mock job interviews resulted in lower sense of belonging, motivation, and identification with a job among female participants.
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- Authors
- Stout, J. G., & Dasgupta, N.
- Affiliations
- University of Massachusetts Amherst (US)
- Corresponding author
- Stout, Jane G.
- Dasgupta, Nilanjana
- Venue
- Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin
- Publisher
- SAGE Publications
- Published
- 2011-05-10
- Volume
- 37
- Issue
- 6
- Pages
- 757-769
- ISSN
- 0146-1672 (ISSN-L)
- 1552-7433
- OpenAlex
- W2115351096
- Cited by
- 244
- References
- 8
- Citations by year
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- FWCI
- 14.89
- Type
- journal article
- Language
- en
- Open access
- closed
- Locations
- Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin (publishedVersion)
- PubMed (publishedVersion)
- Topics
- Social Sciences › Gender Studies › Gender Studies in Language
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Social Psychology › Death Anxiety and Social Exclusion
- Social Sciences › Sociology and Political Science › Social and Intergroup Psychology
- Keywords
- ostracism, gender-inclusive language, gender-neutral language, women, job interviews, sense of belonging, job identification, motivation, emotional disengagement, linguistic cues, gender discrimination
- MeSH terms
- Culture, Female, Humans, Job Application, Language, Male, Nonverbal Communication, Prejudice, Sex Factors, Videotape Recording
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