Whose Fault Is It Anyway? Guilt, Blame, and Death Attribution by Mothers After Stillbirth or Infant Death
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Parents who experience stillbirth or infant death often struggle with postpartum guilt. This may be an adaptive response or can become chronic and maladaptive. We surveyed bereaved mothers in Michigan with perinatal death 15 months after loss to evaluate guilt, blame, and potential covariates. Self-report information was linked with data from State of Michigan vital records of births and deaths. Respondents included 311 mothers. Most reported guilt or self-blame at 15 months. In multinomial logistic analysis, depression and interpersonal violence predicted greater guilt. Nearly half of women blamed their medical team for the loss, and about a fifth reported feeling blamed by others. Both of these attributions were associated with greater guilt. The majority of mothers report persistent guilt after perinatal loss. Depression at either 9 or 15 months was a strong predictor of greater guilt.
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Experiences identified in this review, such as guilt and blame, a sense of isolation, and increased fractured relationships as a result of loss, have been previously identified in studies exploring mothers' experiences of perinatal death.
“There were a number of experiences identified in this review that have been previously identified in studies exploring mothers' experiences of perinatal death such as common emotions including guilt and blame, a sense of isolation, and increased fractured relationships as a result of loss (Gold et al., 2018;Kersting & Wagner, 2012;Turton et al., 2009).”
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- Authors
- Gold, K. J., Sen, A., & Leon, I.
- Affiliations
- University of Michigan (US)
- Corresponding author
- Gold, Katherine J.
- Venue
- Illness, Crisis & Loss
- Publisher
- SAGE Publications
- Published
- 2017-11-10
- Volume
- 26
- Issue
- 1
- Pages
- 40-57
- ISSN
- 1054-1373 (ISSN-L)
- 1552-6968
- OpenAlex
- W2767734579
- Cited by
- 52
- References
- 42
- Citations by year
- 2026: 4 · 2025: 18 · 2024: 7 · 2023: 4 · 2022: 6 · 2021: 4 · 2020: 4 · 2019: 5
- FWCI
- 3.05
- Type
- journal article
- Language
- en
- Open access
- closed
- Locations
- Illness Crisis & Loss (publishedVersion)
- Topics
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Clinical Psychology › Grief, Bereavement, and Mental Health
- Health Sciences › Medicine › Public Health, Environmental and Occupational Health › Maternal Mental Health During Pregnancy and Postpartum
- Health Sciences › Health Professions › General Health Professions › Maternal and Neonatal Healthcare
- Keywords
- stillbirth, infant death, perinatal loss, maternal guilt, self-blame, interpersonal violence, maternal depression, bereaved mothers
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