Mutual but unequal: Mentoring as a hybrid of familiar relationship roles
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This chapter employs a conceptual framework based on the relationship constructs of power and permanence to distinguish the special hybrid nature of mentoring relationships relative to prototypical vertical and horizontal relationships common in the lives of mentor and mentee. The authors note that mentoring occurs in voluntary relationships among partners with unequal social experience and influence. Consequently, mentoring relationships contain expectations of unequal contributions and responsibilities (as in vertical relationships), but sustaining the relationships depends on mutual feelings of satisfaction and commitment (as in horizontal relationships). Keller and Pryce apply this framework to reveal the consistency of findings across several qualitative studies reporting particular interpersonal patterns in youth mentoring relationships. On a practical level, they suggest that the mentor needs to balance the fun, interest, and engagement that maintain the relationship with the experienced guidance, structure, and support that promote the growth and well-being of the mentee.
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Conceptual writing on mentoring has emphasized mentors' ability to move wisely and flexibly between the three dimensions, combining both a hierarchical position as an authority figure and a horizontal position as a friend.
“Conceptual writing on mentoring has emphasized mentors’ ability to move wisely and flexibly between the three dimensions, combining both a hierarchical position as an authority figure and a horizontal position as a friend [97,109].”
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- Authors
- Keller, T. E., & Pryce, J. M.
- Affiliations
- Portland State University (US)
- Loyola University Chicago (US)
- Venue
- New Directions for Youth Development
- Publisher
- Wiley
- Published
- 2010-06
- Volume
- 2010
- Issue
- 126
- Pages
- 33-50
- ISSN
- 1533-8916 (ISSN-L)
- 1537-5781
- OpenAlex
- W1982905356
- Cited by
- 83
- References
- 20
- Citations by year
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- FWCI
- 5.22
- Type
- journal article
- Language
- en
- Open access
- closed
- Locations
- New Directions for Youth Development (publishedVersion)
- PubMed (publishedVersion)
- Topics
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Social Psychology › Mentoring and Academic Development
- Social Sciences › Safety Research › Youth Development and Social Support
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Social Psychology › Counseling Practices and Supervision
- Keywords
- mentoring relationships, youth mentoring, vertical relationships, horizontal relations, relationship roles, mentor responsibilities, youth development
- MeSH terms
- Adolescent, Psychology, Adolescent, Humans, Interpersonal Relations, Mentors, Social Responsibility, Social Support, Volunteers, Models, Organizational, Professional Role
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