Moving toward more perfect unions: Daily and long-term consequences of approach and avoidance goals in romantic relationships.
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In 2 daily experience studies and a laboratory study, the authors test predictions from approach-avoidance motivational theory to understand how dating couples can maintain feelings of relationship satisfaction in their daily lives and over the course of time. Approach goals were associated with increased relationship satisfaction on a daily basis and over time, particularly when both partners were high in approach goals. Avoidance goals were associated with decreases in relationship satisfaction over time, and people were particularly dissatisfied when they were involved with a partner with high avoidance goals. People high in approach goals and their partners were rated as relatively more satisfied and responsive to a partner's needs by outside observers in the lab, whereas people with high avoidance goals and their partners were rated as less satisfied and responsive. Positive emotions mediated the link between approach goals and daily satisfaction in both studies, and responsiveness to the partner's needs was an additional behavioral mechanism in Study 2. Implications of these findings for approach-avoidance motivational theory and for the maintenance of satisfying relationships over time are discussed.
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- Authors
- Impett, E. A., Gordon, A. M., Kogan, A., Oveis, C., Gable, S. L., & Keltner, D.
- Affiliations
- University of Toronto (CA)
- University of California, Berkeley (US)
- University of Hong Kong (HK)
- Harvard University (US)
- University of California, Santa Barbara (US)
- Venue
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
- Published
- 2010-12
- Volume
- 99
- Issue
- 6
- Pages
- 948-963
- ISSN
- 0022-3514 (ISSN-L)
- 1939-1315
- OpenAlex
- W2143664620
- Cited by
- 202
- References
- 64
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- FWCI
- 16.62
- Type
- journal article
- Language
- en
- Open access
- closed
- Locations
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (publishedVersion)
- PubMed (publishedVersion)
- Funders
- Metanexus Institute on Religion, Science and the Humanities
- National Science Foundation (BCS-0753597)
- Topics
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Social Psychology › Attachment and Relationship Dynamics
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Social Psychology › Motivation and Self-Concept in Sports
- Social Sciences › Psychology › Social Psychology › Psychological Well-being and Life Satisfaction
- Keywords
- approach goals, avoidance goals, romantic relationships, relationship satisfaction, dating couples, everyday life, positive emotions
- MeSH terms
- Adolescent, Adult, Courtship, Emotions, Female, Humans, Longitudinal Studies, Male, Middle Aged, Motivation, Personal Satisfaction, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Multivariate Analysis, Spouses
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